Pep Talks

Am I Doing This Right?

When it comes to writing, I often worry about doing things the right way. What’s the right way to blog? Do I need to focus solely on posts about writing? Should I post something every day? How do I promote it?

Here’s the thing.

I want to write. I want to write long things, like novels, and short things, like short stories and blog posts and poems. Writing is one of those things that I’ve loved to do since I was a kid, and I’m generally a happier person when I make time to write regularly.

Still, even though I am completely certain all of the above is true, I just keep NOT writing.

It’s a lot of pressure to sit down and think I’m not successful unless I’m working on a novel. Blog posts would just as easily fulfill my need to write, but what can I blog about? Is it okay to be a writer who blogs about a lot of different things without focusing only on the topic of writing?

It should be simple, really. This is my blog. I own it. I can do whatever I want here. Every time I think about blogging, I get sidetracked by trying to understand what the rules are.

I do not like rules.

This is a major personality flaw of mine.

As soon as you tell me “This is how you have to do this thing,” I will automatically be resistant to doing that thing in that way. I never like feeling like I have to do anything, and I can’t stand the idea that there’s only one right way to do a thing.

Let’s all take a moment and think about this. I am:

1. Preoccupied with wanting to do things the right way.

2. Annoyed when someone tells me there’s a right way to do things.


So my new mantra, my May 15 resolution, if you will, is: it’s okay to just do things. It’s okay to figure things out as I go. It’s okay if I don’t know the right way to blog. (It’s because there’s isn’t a right way. There’s my way and your way and some other person’s way and it’s okay if all those ways are different and rules are dumb.)

Ever since I got into the writing game, I’ve tried to just be myself with you guys and not worry about being A Professional Authorly Person. I’m not sure when I lost sight of that, or exactly where I decided that who I was wasn’t quite enough to be taken seriously and I needed to learn the right way to be me.

As of today, I’m just gonna let all of that go, mmk?

I also don’t know the right way to end a blog post.


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