A few weeks ago, I talked to you about something new I’m trying this year, The Three-Word Approach. I’ve been choosing a Word for the Year for a while, but this year I thought I would try tying my word to feelings I hope to achieve, basically so I would always have a reminder of my “why.”
Last year, my word was Go, and it made a huge difference in the way I lived the last twelve months. All my recent words from the last few years (Go, Balance, Create) have been focused on improving something within myself, such as pushing myself to write, have a better work-life balance, and to stop overthinking/procrastinating all the time. This year, I’ve chosen a word that’s more outward-focused. I realized that these days I’m really happy with who I am and the progress I’ve made, so I wanted a word that would be less about what’s going on in my head and more about my interactions with others.
For 2020, my three words are love (action), genuine (vibe), and relationships (value). Love is the main thing. I want to do a better job of showing love to the people who are important to me. Let me tell you- I initially hated the word when I thought of it. It’s too big and too broad, and frankly, it sounds a little cheesy.
Then I remembered that I’m the one who decides how the words will work, and it’s only cheesy if I make it cheesy.
We all know I’m gonna make it a little cheesy, but that’s okay. That’s MY BRAND. I am like, the personification of Velveeta.
Anyway. Back to Love.
Not even a full month into the year, I can already tell it’s working. When my daughters want my attention, I don’t ask them to wait a moment, and I don’t half-watch while also looking at my phone. I stop and give them my full attention. At this age, that’s all they really want. I’m a little ashamed to say that, before I started putting conscious effort into it, I hadn’t even realized how often I was slacking in the “full attention” department.
My relationship with my kids is only one of the relationships I want to work on this year, and I’ve felt changes in other relationships, too. Some of these changes are probably only noticeable to me, little shifts in the things I say to myself, but we all know how incredibly important self-talk can be. How you talk to yourself absolutely impacts the way you talk to other people, and having a good (open, honest, loving) relationship with yourself should always be a top priority.
Have you picked a word for the year? Even if you haven’t, it’s never too late. I’m as enthralled as anyone with the “fresh start” feeling that comes with January 1st, but we should remember that you can have a fresh start any day of the year.
Or maybe you did pick a word and this post just reminded you that you haven’t even thought about your word since you chose it. That’s ok, too! Start again. Right now. (Tip: I changed my phone wallpaper to the word “Love,” so I see it every single time I pick up my phone. I also have it taped on a card right above my desk so I see it every time I sit down to work. It is SUCH a good reminder.)
If you’re like me, and you can already tell your word is making a difference in your world, let me know in the comments! I love hearing your stories, and we can all benefit from seeing how little changes can have bigger impact.